In the seven years that my wife and I served as caregivers to her mother, we made many mistakes. Some of those I know were detrimental to my mother-in-law and some to the whole family. For example, we moved her 4 times in that short period: to a retirement community, then to an apartment, then to a long term care facility near us, and then to another facility that provided better care at a lower price that was near my wife’s sister.